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Funny you should write about this as I've been thinking about it lately as well. My boyfriend is quite slim, downright skinny actually, mainly hairless - where I'm shorter, stockier, hairier (by far). He's totally into bears, I'm totally into younger looking twinkies - so it does happen sometimes that it works out in the best ways...

I prefer nodding, rather than saying Hi, if I only know someone in passing. I don't think it's any less appropriate, but some people seem to expect a color guard parade. Now though, I have this little voice in my head going "Hmm I wonder who he's talking about." Btw, sometimes, you can be totally intimidating, especially at the gym.

Attraction is a pretty maleable thing for you then, but the physical atrributes of your fantasy man is pretty well known. And Mr. Savage sometimes puts thins oh so well; when I get a bit under the weather, I have similar doubts.

>>>>"Btw, sometimes, you can be totally intimidating, especially at the gym."

ME?!? INTIMIDATING!?! WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?!? GRRRR! AND YOU'RE HOGGING MY STRETCH CENTER!!! WHY DON'T YOU SAY HELLO MUTHERFUCKER!!! ARRRGH!! GRRRR!

>; )

as a guy who really neither falls into the smooth twink nor the hairy bear category .. i applaude you for not relegating yourself to only one 'type'... i only wish that very relegation weren't so prevelant. but alas, it is.

"I am attracted to individuals rather than a caricature or archetype."

Amen to that! Good lookin' and common sense to boot. As an average build kind of guy with a smattering of hair that's looking to become more athletic, I've found myself snubbed a little bit at one or two bear gatherings. I like all types of guys, of course I have my preferences leaning towards the bearish type, but I would never rule someone out just because they're not "bear" enough.

The whole bear thing is VERY confusing -- its a frickin zoo out there. The other day, I was speaking with a gentleman at our faux leather bar... I identified as a cub (youngish bigger guy), he proceeded to reach under my shirt, feel my hairless (actually there are 5 hairs thank you very much) chest and announced "Oh, you're not a cub - your a manatee" Hmmmm -- Sea Cow - How nice!

"me under surveillance should consider a career with the CIA or FBI. "

Umm, yeah........we don't want him.

Ooh, I want to stalk Jimbo. Please e-mail me your schedule. In the event you plan to deviate from said schedule, please provide at least 30 minutes advance notice. Please also note that, for the next 10 weeks, I will be serving jury, duty and my actually stalking ability may be limited. Your immediate attention to this request is appreciated.

Amen to that.

Dan's right. I hope all guilty parties read his column and look suitably ashamed.

The animal thing is sooo tired and sooo stupid and sooo over.

Let's just try relating to each other as, say, humans?

Hey Jimbo

Homie, my bud says you're hitting the old pueblo of tucson soon. Have fun while you're here.

I suppose I would be considered a bear but personally not much into the bear culture. There are some real decent bear folks but have had too many run-ins with queen b types and the type of insecure arrogance described in your blog. I prefer inshape, thick is okay but lean towards slim brown skinned types. To each his own. Gay culture has become so polarized, most groups maintaining social, sexual and gay expectations of the others.

Again, have fun while you're here. Maybe we'll see you out at the Denture Inn.
later
reuben

I think the problem with 'bear culture' is the fact that so few people are really into the actual 'cultre' of it, they just like the men. There are people out there that really get fucking into it, and their whole animal heirarchy. It gets confusing, because people think they are a part of it when they have little inkling of the realities that exist. Sites like BMB just compound the confusion and it ends up in a big ball of what it is today, a pile of shit. Maybe not a pile of shit, but saying 'a pile of shit' has better dramatic effect....not that I'm actually talki...I've just gone cross-eyed.

It's just strange how people still don't realize they like what they like, it's fear that drives them to fanatical (read: retarded) extremes. This is true in nearly all situations, from likeable music to artistic taste. There are only 2 sides to every coin, but life is not a coin, and neither are people. The world isn't black OR white, it's both, and then some.

I was gonna tease Kevin above for linking his BMB profile in a comment making faking fun of BMB, but when I clicked on his link, I see that he has "liked" me, so I'll leave that alone. :)

Also: I too have been a bit unnerved to see read an another blog that I have been "spotted" somewhere doing something.

I'd run up and grab you in a big hug. I'm from the South, it's what we do.

I had a reader email once and give me half my previous days schedule. It was spooky. Not like he just saw me in passing but more like he really followed me around. I asked why he didn't say hi and he said he didn't feel comfortable. WTF? You read my blog, you obviously liked me enough to follow me around yet you couldn't say hi? *perplexed look of dismay*

As for the whole bear thing, I've never been a bear or a twink. I'm guilty of making assumptions based on one's appearance but I'm never rude or discourteous until given a reason to. Don't even get me started on the whole body by mattel mouth by barbie bit.

We are defined not how we look but how we treat others. I just wish more folks realized that.

Hrm - what if they are talking about you sitting on a Metro bench, unaware that you're sitting right behind them? That'd be a little embarassing, as well as a little funny. Not that it's ever happened to me!

As for the bear thing - I've been going to bear bars since I was a wee twinky lad, but I never got the time of day until I grew a beard. I certainly know there's a spectrum, from "AH'M A BAAAR! WOOF GIRL *paw tattoo*" guys to standard, well-adjusted gays.