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I'm all for partnered gay men in burkas. No temptation (you'll never know if they are scruffalicious or not). It would be so much easier to sort out potentials and already-caughts (Oh, check out the cutey next to the guy in the Diesel burka!). Plus, being single is often hellish and partnered gays deserve a little discomfort for making us single gurls feel inadequate.

I have mixed feelings about the whole "I have a boyfriend" warning-announcement thing. Since I have barely been single since my senior year in college (and I am NOT saying that like it's something to be proud of, because it's certainly not), I've been in this situation a lot. Blurting out "I have a boyfriend" can actually be insulting, since you are assuming that the person you are talking to is interested in dating. Also, sometimes you just want to have a conversation with someone, and when you say "I have a boyfriend" they will run away as fast as they can (granted, that doesn't really seem to happen in New York so much).

But also, what about other factors that would make one unavailable for dating? What if you are single but not interested in a relationship? Should you announce that too? Or what if you are talking to someone you find unattractive? Should you say, "Just so you know, I don't think you're cute, so you don't waste your time"?

Also, remember: relationships fall apart all the time.

Anyway, please don't stop flirting with me.

A fair number of people just want to interact, and maybe if a single guy is looking for a bf then that's part of the equation too. I think that when you get to a certain part in the conversation, it should come up if you're unavailable. However, I have no problem flirting and enjoying the rush, but I'm straight up about my intentions early on, because that's me. Brutal honesty is a defining characteristic among my people.

I do know of people who will string along a guy for 2 plus hours and intentionally keep their status to themselves, only to disappoint the guy they're talking to. Maybe that's what Jimbo means. Those people are bitches and should have to wear a scarlet P for Playa/Partnered/Purile/Peeve

What if you are single but not interested in a relationship? That's easily covered by the phrase: I want to f*ck you but I don't want to date/don't date. By leaving off the second "you" it doesn't sound like an insult.

>>>Anyway, please don't stop flirting with me.

Eric: I will continue to flirt with you since I know your relationship status.

I think in the two recent cases, the guys were just thriving on the attention at my expense. But feelings are hurt when their relationship status is disclosed rather late in the game (after recieving my phone number, corresponding, sex act, passage of several weeks' time, etc.).

And even if said relationship falls apart, I'd never date the shady fucker anyway.

I 100% agree that a person should disclose their relationship status.

Also not many men are like you Jimbo. A person who would have the decency to back off.

But burquas? naaaa I refuse to wear one. I will just show my wedding band WONDER TWIN style ;-)

I would gladly wear a burqua if I cold find that one guy who doesn't mind my energy level. Okay, that a lie because I get hot so easily. I would currently wear one for the simple fact that my face met a tree Wed night, but that's another story. I was sober.

I'm enjoying the site and your pictures, btw. Some of the pics are wonderfully beautiful. Keep takin' 'em.

(DISCLAIMER: I'M SINGLE)
As for flirting, I do it shamelessly mostly because it helps with my comedy much like this one: "Jimbo, you are one of the hottest men I've ever seen on the Internet". Of course, that is about as subtle a flirt as panting heavily into the phone. (but it's true)

I guess flirting never really bothers me because I never take people at face value until they prove it with follow-through and collaborative actions. I realize that is cynical of me, but, like Jimbo, I've grown tired of the games the ones that take it too far play for their own ego satisfaction, so I like to flirt in 5-minute intervals.

Which probably is a reason I stay single.

What bothers me more though are the married "straight" guys who flirt with gay men. The ones who have no intention whatsoever of getting involved any further in any type of gay relationship, but for some reason, they really get off on flirting with gay guys. I have known quite a few of those in my past and still know a couple of them right now.

By the way, I have a bf. I wear a ring, so most people figure it out right away. But, you all can feel free to flirt with me (or my bf for that matter) any time.

I tend to ASK fairly soon into the conversation - and like you, Jimbo - to me it's all about the honesty.

I'm w/ya in that regard jimbo. I'm assuming these guys were in open LTR's. I think many guys are afraid to own up to it out of fear of rejection. However, deceit is never a good thing in any form IMHO. I think it's also disrespectful to your partner.

Sorry, I was busy flirting in San Francisco and missed this.

I never have to worry about outing myself, partner-wise. All my good friends will usually break a heel to whine to whoever it is I'm talking to:

"HE'S MARRIED!"

Thanks, guys.

Actually, I'll tell you about Tim right up front, if in fact, he isn't with me. And I will definitely point him out if he's working behind the bar.

Flirting is one of those fun things we get to do, single or otherwise. It's just a way to let someone else know you think they're smokin'! There's nothing wrong with a little significant eye-contact, whoever it comes from. After that, you gotta keep it honest.

Karma's a bitch, and payback is hell.

You probably could have saved yourself a ton of aggro by just asking the guy straight up 'do you have a boyfriend...?' Depending on the innuendos and candor of the conversation/flirting... I always feel compeled to introduce my BF status pretty early into the conversation to ensure I am not misleading the person.

Inversely... lol... it becomes pretty irritating when people engage you in converstation at the pub - only to 'excuse themselves' after I disclose the fact I have a bf...

BTW - Do the burkas come in anything other than blue? I was thinking of somthing in either August Moon or Spring Blossom. :-)