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"Massage"? I never imagined you as the asian lotus flower slowly kneeding the fat white whale's back.

I don't do euphemisims. I make it clear up front, that we will be f-ing, and more to the point I will be putting my dick there, there and probably there. If his Log Cabin Republican lilly white self can't hack it, he won't be crossing my threshold.

Mr. Sullivan is, as always out flying kites. When you're rich and the gods are smiling upon you, you tend not to perceive reality.

"All I Ever Needed to Know I Learned from a Bowl of Cheerios"

Catchy title. Do you think you could get about 300 pages out of your bowl. I'd buy a copy.

See this article by a former professor of mine:

http://glreview.com/12.6-williams.php

I still say, call it what you want, but when you're being gay-bashed, or denied the right to marry because your partner is of the same sex...that makes you gay (or lesbian). If we don't call ourselves something, others will decide what to call us, and that's not a good thing.

I like using the word 'faggot', on the one hand, for it's ability to stop most of the gays in their tracks. It's also easy to immediately disarm a room full of straight people.

On the other, it's along the same lines as using the word 'queer', or black folks using the word 'nigga'--by embracing the word, you diminish the negative connotations.

Personally, I'd rather be called a faggot than gay any day.

Oh, and Andrew Sullivan is a hack who's gotten too many lucky breaks. His desire to remain a vital gadfly only pushes him into more absurd territory.

I didn't read Andrew's piece because I just don't bother anymore, but I can imagine the gist of it.

BUT what did your massage guest mean? That he didn't do "gay stuff" too often, or that he didn't do casual hookups too often? I've never believed that bitching about the closet, one way or the other, should obscure the fact that there's a spectrum of attitudes towards sex that may be right for different people. Some can hook up all the time, finding affirmation and fraternity there; for other guys that's soul-killing. Either stance or all btwn can be right for us, but none is any more authenthically gay that the next.

actually I have commented in the past though it may have been from this account: ragazzo@rof.net.

I'm all for honesty when talking about sex. It really helps get people together, and makes for hot sex. But like I said here in DC we can't call it sex or tricking or buttfucking or whatever - we have to use euphamisms! Here's a few classics from this area:

"Kickin' back with a bud" - masturbation.
"hangin' out" - sex.
"massage" - sex.
"mild to wild" - fuck my hole raw.

Anyway, from what I could sense from the guy he was still closeted and meant to impress on me that he didn't hook up with guys too often, as if it were a crime. Judging by his skillz (or lack thereof) he was being honest.

I'm not a slut by any means, but I am honest and open (within boundaries of privacy and respect for the other guy) person about sex. Americans are too hung up on sex issues. So I talk about it. But here in DC if you talk about sex at all you're a 'slut' and if you mention even once you enjoyed getting fucked you're forever labeled as a "monster bottom" - even though most here in this town already are by default.
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Jimbo

I think it's really called here in DC: "Kickin' back with a 'durban' bud" - masturbation.

Just wanted to clarify.

Speaking of bears (and for the record, I dislike scenes, categories, cliques,labels, subcultures), I was watching Goblet of Fire last night (Best. Harry. Potter. Film. Ever!). Fifteen minutes into the movie, seemingly from out of nowhere, the entire cast of a Chi Chi La Rue-former eastern bloc porn movie show up at Hogwarts. I was sure they would have at least turned Ron or maybe Draco.

Boo...that WAS a great scene, wasn't it? The guy I was with grabbed my arm and almost screamed. And how 'bout that Viktor Krum? Hello.

Joe . . . at least it was an almost scream. When Harry takes his shirt off and slips into the bathtub, there were far to many, um, audible gasps/cheers/whistles and applause for my tastes. Come on people, the kid is only 16.

At least wait for Order of the Phoenix.

Okay, now back to Jimbo's real topic above.

They'll only use euphemisms if you let them.

Monster bottom? I though that's what you call a redneck who drives a Dodge Ram and can't chew tobacco because he's too busy trying to get all the feathers out of his mouth. Which is how I like 'em.

Of course any guy whose first you pic you see is dick or ass has already lost the PR battle. I prefer to disempower the word slut, and use it liberally.

Victor Krum is the fall's new hot thing.

I always thought that "mild to wild" was a euphamism for PnP - shows what I know...

And who died and appointed la Sullivan queenbee, anyway?

Jimbo, there may be hope. See this article:

http://www.newyorkmetro.com/lifestyle/sex/annual/2005/15059/index.html

Once things get to New york Magazine (and its ilk) the end can't be far behind....

ZZ

There is also the irony of most "bears" I know being campier than drag queens.

Love the blog. Surfed over here from Homer's.
Nice to hear about smart and engaging gay men in the DC area. And couldn't agree with you more about the silliness of Andrew Sullivan. When he opens his mouth I want to have some measuring spoons ready to catch the tablespoon of truth he dispenses (for every cup).