Jimbo.Info

All the positive male gay role models are to boring for the media/news to cover, regardless if it is the mainstream media or the gay media.

No one wants to hear about the gay couple who work 9 to 5 jobs, who spend their free time at home, watching TV or spending it with their familes.
Or the single gay man or woman who works hard, pays their taxes and lives a pretty normal life.

To the media, normal is boring, positive is not news worthy. Just scandal , stereotypes and negative examples make it on the news/media/TV shows.

I think Ian McKellen was never "in the closet" he just never talked about it. And even after in an interview on the BBC where he came out , his career did not suffer. Of course I can never picture anyone other than him to play Gandalf :-)

You are right Jimbo - it's an early '70s song - "Annie" - by Pure Prairie League. Sure sounds like they're saying "Amy" though..

I found it! It is in fact 'Amie' by Pure Prairie League. And there's a long version too! LOVE IT! And it's not a new band like I thought. I'm going to go out and buy the CD, if it exists. Thanks Andy Andy HoHandy Handy!

Ian McKellan was publicly closeted. There's an excellent short biography written by a British writer about Armistead Maupin, where Ian McKellan describes his public coming out.

And Jimbo, I think part to the reason lesbians get featured more goes back to that little skew that happens at puberty where women mature far faster than men, and men spend years catching up. All my college years, I was surrounded by people who knew who they were, what they wanted and had some insecurities but nothing pushing them to bareback or do crystal meth. I doubt it's coincidence that every last one was a lesbian.

To be fair, a lot of gay male icons died in the 80's, and lesbians took up the reins of power, and have been incredibly supportive, and many gay men still look down their noses. Bunch of misogynist (sp?) bastards.

There's a best of cd that's available at Amazon if you can't find it at a local store.

P.S.
Why can't positive gay role models have hot, nasty, sweaty sex and still be good people? Do we all have to turn into Donna Reed to get accepted? I don't want a seat at that table.

And why can't people read my blog entries in their entirety? Ralph, In today's entry I advocate PDAs and open talk about sex, but I save the kinky or wild stuff for my best friends. There is only so much straight people can take.

And I never said positive gay role models can't talk about sex or have no sex at all either. I just wish we wouldn't hear so much about outed closeted gay men, or closeted gay men getting caught in cruising areas. Howabout someone just coming out because he feels like it?

Great Post. Found you on scary Terry's site...the comment you made.

I know a few women who were lesbian until they graduated college and went on to marry and have kids. they are never given much flack. I also know men who had one sexual encounter with another guy and can't shake the label that they are gay, or closeted if they went on to marry. truth is that sex and gender role stereotypes are harder on guys than on women. lesbians are often seen through a cultural lens as having some power over their lives, being strong. gay men are seen as 'trading down' or giving up power and status. part homophobia, part rigid gender role expectations, part sexism equals total repression of gay men in public positions.

Lesbians who marry men were never lesbians to start out with, at least in the eyes of every lesbian I've met. Women who identify as lesbians do not like those women in the least, treating their fundamental identity like some sort of phase or experimentation like smoking pot in college. In fact if you follow the story of Lillian Faderman, author of "Surpassing the Love of Men", who had many relationships with women, who was an icon, and then started dating a man, came in for withering attack. She was villified.

I agree with Jimbo, for once I'd really like to see a gay man of prominence come out, or hell be out his entire career. Elton John had to be dragged kicking and screaming. Same for practically all of them. Melissa Etheridge was out her entire adult life and used her third album as a vehicle for coming out more publicly. Not that there aren't desperately annoying lesbians like Rosie O' Donnell or Lily Tomlin, the difference being that lesbians saw her as a twotiming, Tom Cruise fake worshipping bitch, whereas gay men probably would have given her a pass had she been a gay man. I'm hardpressed to think of one prominent gay man who came out of his own accord.

I forgot about Dan Savage, who has always been a B.O.Q. (Big 'ol Queen). He's kinky, partnered, and has a kid, and is semi-famous.

There is a kind of livebearing killifish (like a guppy) that can breed without males for a time. There's another species that only require the mere presence of a male to produce young.