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November 18, 2004

keeping in touch

Photo taken at the NYC Eagle post-match social by Joe. The greasy tendrils are an attempt at french fries. You should have tasted the chicken. But after 3 rugby matches, you will eat anything. But that still doesn't explain how Joe was eating as much as me.

Yet even more Jimbo: blogjam footage thanks to Stephen. I haven't even watched it yet.

Men, men, men. Nothing but problems with 'em. I was a bit bummed out with men problems last night before meeting up for dinner with Shawn at DuPont Italian Kitchen, but the company and the half-carafe of red wine helped out, followed by catching up on my first viewing of Lost, simultaneously flipping channels to that Category 6 disaster movie, which kinda sucked. But it was neat to see that McKeon chick from Facts of Life play a badass survivor type.

Anyway, Dreamy Ron called the other day to catch up. He's working near my campus now, so that means a new lunchmate to fill the cold, empty void left by the now Downtown-Fabulous Chrisafer. While Chrisafer is no Dreamy Ron, the conversation is missed and a replacement is appreciated. Anyhow, after a season of dating-not-dating with him a few years ago, it's easy to chat and be friends now.

But that takes time, and is not always easy for everyone, which I can understand. Yesterday I tried to get in touch with a guy I was seeing last month, and got a thorough tounge-lashing from the guy. I guess I wasn't as graceful or well-timed with my honesty about my disinterest in him at the time, and he was hurt. It's clear now that he was also into me more than I suspected too. And I was the first guy he had dated, and the brand new queers are a bit more passionate and tender than the Jaded Ones. I should have been more sensitive and careful. Gurl sometimes calls me 'Rhinohide' due to my oft-bludgeoning honesty and complete lack of compassion, and this was no exception. I don't mean to be that way, I just don't see any point in saying anything other than the truth, which often gets me in trouble and hurts feelings. I'm workin' on it. I suspect once he irons things through, he'll be in touch some day.

But I felt bad about me too...there wasn't anything wrong with this guy...furry, schnozalicious, hot beard, well-educated, level-headed and a bit geeky. Perfect for Jimbo, right? But I just wasn't feeling anything for him, which happens, no judgement on the other guy. But one tends to wonder when offered something that appears to be perfect match, and you don't feel a thing. Anyhow, I'm taking a hiatus from dating until I'm either so desperate for sex that I'll start again, or until my friends drive me crazy so I seek company elsewhere. Neither scenario is ever far on the horizon.

And then I hear tell my neighbor who lives a block away has a vacancy in his house, which was normally filled by a long time aquaintance of mine who has been struggling with meth/alcohol addiction the past year. This set off alarms in my mind. Thus far, he has been the only person I know in the DC Metro Area who has both admitted to having a problem with Tina and has made efforts (in his case herculean) to get through the problem. He is supposed to be my hero. Everyone else I know has continued with the lies, the physical and spiritual deterioration, or have had to move away to get out of the dealer network. I can count the number of people who have been wrecked by Tina on two hands now, and it makes me sad to think about them.

But apparently this guy's recovery has not been clean nor complete, and he is now moving into a recovery house for additional help. This makes me sad, as I thought he was on the way out of the shit. But at least he's still doing something about it, so there is hope, and he's trying very, very hard. From what I've seen, the odds are against him. From what little I know about recovery, this may not be an easy process, but I'm wishing on my hero until then.

Posted by jimbo at November 18, 2004 10:40 AM


Jimbo, you are TOO adorable. Thanks for posting the clip (mahalos also to Geekslut). It's always nice to put a voice with the face.

-your biggest fan in Honolulu

Posted by: Ron at November 18, 2004 3:24 PM

Awhhhhh, My heart goes bang bang bang bang.

Posted by: Lib inTexas at November 18, 2004 3:46 PM

It's always interesting to hear the voice of someone after you have been reading their stuff for so long but never heard before. You done have a sexy voice :)

Posted by: Scott at November 18, 2004 3:54 PM

so hows rugby going my dahling. and speaking of bear invasion my friend is freaking out after this weekend when he just found out from an ex that he is considered a bear. such a wierdo. anyway u go gurl.

Posted by: Klubyou Taunt at November 18, 2004 6:51 PM

jim, you have quite the manly voice. so much better than my slow southern drawl.

Posted by: myke at November 18, 2004 10:13 PM

Yikes, is that who I think that is?

Posted by: stebbins at November 19, 2004 10:48 AM

The guy in the photo is a bit of a dish isn't he? ;)

Posted by: Trunkguy at November 19, 2004 4:01 PM