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February 24, 2004
love and rugby
I'm happy to say that my mole-ridden dermis has been officially declared cancer-free. The doc said it was instead some common itchy back malady that happens a lot to people. He gave me some creams and salves to deal with it. I got my health, which is good. I'll go again a year from now, just like Kyan says to do on Queer Eye. And if you need a reference to an absolutely adorable dermatologist, let me know. Married, but cute as a button.
Yesterday I was having lunch with Chrisafer's partner Bubbles, and we were talkin' about dating, relationships, love and all that. It ocurred to me that dating a lot like rugby: if you're afraid to get hurt, you're not going to play a good match. You have to go into the game expecting to get hurt, with the reserves to take the hits. Sure, you might not get hurt, which makes for a more enjoyable post-match social and continued career in the game.
Injury was one of the reasons I decided to stop playing rugby. I think my game suffered after one too many cuts and bruises, and the fear of huge hospital bills and the possibility of not being able to run again without limping made me play scared and hesitant.
On a similar vein, I decided I should probably cut back on any thoughts of serious dating for a while, as I've found lately I'm not ready to take the hits and watch the cuts and bruises heal over and over again. I've got too many demanding issues on the plate right now like money, adjustment to the new job, trust, time, and grad school preparation. I believe if you're serious about growing together with someone, you can't play the game scared and hesitant. It makes for a bad match.
But my personal issues seem miniscule in comparison to the times. Our President is now actively and openly supporting a constitutional amendment that assures we do not have the same rights as other people. It's absolutely amazing and terrifying. It may not become a reality, and Bush bringing the issue to the forefront for political gain may work to our benefit in the end. But it still amazes me that a country that has gone through emancipation of slavery, liberation of women, and a supposed ethical superiority to other countries is going in this direction. Looking at Amnesty International's website, I see there are more grave concerns in the world, like child slavery, barbarism in Congo, global famine and AIDS. But I think the progression of equal rights for gays, lesbians and other human beings with alternate sexualities could be an example for the developing world.
Posted by jimbo at February 24, 2004 2:13 PM
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Regarding Bush, I just flew into a rage about him doing something I knew he would do all along, backing the amendment. Now that I've cooled down a bit, I'm wonder if my city pushing the issue the way it has could threaten the tiny gains we've made in the past ten years or so. Many Republicans are thanking our mayor.
Time will tell.
Posted by: rob at February 24, 2004 3:09 PM
Good news about your molemolemole.
Sad that we compare dating and the injuries to a game of rugby football. But it's so true. Lately I just compare my sex/dating life to bowling. Why you ask? My right hand is always hurting.
Posted by: mark at February 24, 2004 3:43 PM
Jim ... I couldn't decide whether you looked pissed off or contemplative in that photo or maybe both??? ;)
Posted by: myke at February 24, 2004 4:14 PM
Iam sad to say it Jimbo, but Homosexuals will be the last group ever to get any equal treatment under the law.
Homosexuals are looked at by almost every society, every ethinic group and almost every religion as an Abomination, a heretical mutation that is to be wiped out, a mistake in evolution. sad but true.
We live in a country that is slowly in decline in regards to social reform and equality. Where the religious minority has the majority of control, and common sense and logic is thrown out the window.
Posted by: Dax at February 24, 2004 4:46 PM
I'm waiting for Bush to support the constitutional amendment against no-fault divorce since its an even graver threat to traditional marriage.
The mullahs in Iran are proud of Bush.
Posted by: Dwight at February 24, 2004 5:04 PM
Dont let the rage eat at you on the inside.
Just remember....we's good faggots..we's laughin and dancin alls the times.....we's jus poor faggots wiv too many rights already! do fuss now!
Posted by: GURL at February 24, 2004 5:35 PM
Congrats on your non-cancerous mole!
I oppose Bush (in multiple contexts of the word)!
Posted by: ruggerjohnnyd at February 24, 2004 6:28 PM
Once again, your post is insightful, heartful, and to the point. That's why you are a leader in this community.
Posted by: Out There at February 24, 2004 7:56 PM
So right about the love/risk/rugby analogy. Also so very what I am thinking these days.
Posted by: sam at February 25, 2004 8:36 AM