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December 28, 2003

33, and recently "it"

I get up in the morning and start the grooming regimen in front of the mirror. First, check the ears and nose. One of the hallmarks of passing into your 30's as a guy is the migration of hair to various strange places. In my case, if I don't run the clipper at the zero setting over the ears and get up in those nostrils with the little scissors at least once a week, errant and long hairs are sure to show themselves. The scruff is growing in nicely for the return of the beard, and I notice a few more grey hairs coming out of the temples, nape and chin. While my skin is dry in the winter, what few wrinkles I do have coming in complements the overall look.


Bradford bemoans no longer being the "it" boy. I think the concept of what is "it" is relative, as I feel I am now coming into my definition of "it". When I was first coming out, the guys I was with were all somewhere in their 30's, and my tastes haven't changed since. Now I'm gaining the attributes that I've always found desireable: a mature appearance (I won't say that about my persona, however), more grounded on what I want in a relationship, and a tested determination of my career path.

I've yet to feel uneasy about being in my 30's. While I've spent more than enough time in the clubs, I've never identified with being a club kid. Skinny, broke and without direction was never my style. So there have been no regrets, like that of many bar- and club-goers in the gay community, of getting further away from the concept of what is the perception of perfection amongst many gay men. The A&F soft-porn catalog bores me. To me, perfect is having your career and life goals on track, having your finances and home in order (not quite there yet), and knowing what you want in your relationship with a man.

So here's to being 33, and recently "it". Except for my lower back, which is throbbing this weekend. I do wish my lower back was that of a supple twink's. But that's about it.

Last night Gurl and I went out to Apex to celebrate. It didn't look too hoppin' from the outside, so we went to nearby Omega for a few. Luckily, it was Kylie night, with Kylie videos on the big screen. That was lovely. However, Gurl kept pointing out unpretty things all the time, like nonstop muskrat lovemaking at the bar and a man with leather chaps and a white ass that looked like rancid cottage cheese pouring out of a black plastic pastry tube. 'Scuse me, it's my birthday, Gurl. Why are you showing me these things? My filters had previously been blotting them out of my conciousness. However, Omega always makes you feel pretty.

So we tried going back to Apex. Fortunately, the doorman pointed out that it was Ladies' Night. I wasn't feeling ladylike, so we headed over to the Eagle. I think I was already on my way home by the time we walked in. And while I like cigars, one doesn't have to smoke maduro cigars to exude fumes of masculinity. Sometimes maduro cigars smell like shit, and multiple maduros smell like a pile of shit. There are milder brands to choose from!

Posted by jimbo at December 28, 2003 2:13 PM


Happy Birthday Jimbo

Posted by: corey at December 28, 2003 4:49 PM

Everyone knows 35 is "it", you've got two more years to go. I was "it" last year and it was great. 25 be dammed.

Have a great b-day!

Posted by: Fitz at December 28, 2003 5:28 PM

Happy Birthday to a bad daddy and one tough boy, slurpalicious hot stuff.

Posted by: Aragorn at December 28, 2003 6:29 PM

I can't wait till I begin my third decade :-)

Tanjobi Omedeto! (Happy Birthday in Japanese)

Posted by: Dax at December 28, 2003 7:27 PM

Hey happy birthday Jimbo

just wait until 40 and "daddyhood" kicks in...

Posted by: Andy at December 28, 2003 8:19 PM

Jesus was 33 when he died. I'm just sayin'.

Happy birthday, baby.

Posted by: chrisafer at December 29, 2003 12:12 AM

Happy Birthday Jimbo! wooof!

Posted by: Chris at December 29, 2003 6:30 AM

Happy Belated Birthday, Jimbo! I would have bought you a drink at the Eagle, but you took off!

Oh, and thanks for the juicy gossip!

Posted by: stebbins at December 29, 2003 9:53 AM