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October 24, 2003
stop, go, here, there, near, far
I'm probably a bit hungover today, which is already adding to my usually cranky Friday mood. Mondays are hectic no matter what you're doing, and I think most folks are burnt out on Fridays. Practice last night was cold as hell, and I couldn't seem to be on the right side of the field at any given moment in the coaches' eyes. Bark, bark, bark, geet your heed outta yer ass. I play soo well under negative scrutiny. Oh well, I've mentioned before that I'm losing enthusiasm for rugby, and perhaps it's time to move on anyway. Come spring I'll likely be on my way with graduate-level coursework, so something has to go regardless.
After practice some of the team went out to Titan for our Thursday beer, then I went to the Lantern to meet up with Keith. Of course there were plenty of old, and possibly new friends there, and the cheap beer helped lubricate my socializations. Afterwards we went to the Eagle, but it was well on its way to being over, so we left.
Tonight I'm going to see a film from the Reel Affirmations G/L/Bi/Whatever film festival with Formerly Dreamy Ron. Put one hand out a la the Supremes saying 'Stop!' and then beckon with the other hand at the same time, and that's how it's been with him to date. Add to it that he prefers to date men in other cities, or even on other coasts, and it should give you a good idea of how promising our relationship has been to date. Homey don't play dat, and I'm nobody's sloppy seconds. So, I'm getting ready to make sure he understands my definition of our relationship, which is that we are going to be friends and nothing more from this point on.
Posted by jimbo at October 24, 2003 12:56 PM
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yeah, I had a friend like that...when he started dating people in Australia, we knew we needed an interventional...
But he learned his lesson...he moved from Chicago to Cocoa Beach, Florida, only to find out new boyfriend was under house arrest and had one of those monitoring devices on his ankle.
Posted by: stebbins at October 24, 2003 1:27 PM
I felt the same way when I played Hockey. Always good to set the pause button on hobbies and focus of others things or other hobbies.
And it is always good (actually a must) to set definitions and boundaries in any relationship, whether platonic, romantic or in anyform.
Hope everthing turns out good.
And Congrats on your new Job. WOOHOOO!
Posted by: Dax at October 24, 2003 2:21 PM
I had a somewhat similar experience.
I met a cute guy originally from South America living in San Francisco. We met the day I learned a very close family member of mine attempted suicide while in Europe. After being an emotional mess all day, I suddenly had all this sexual adrenaline surge through me. So, I go to this club, the slimmest and most toned I have ever been, sans shirt and sans sense when I meet this guy. Next thing I know I am having sex with him for 2 days straight with breaks for shopping, eating, and the toilet. During this time, he admits he has a lover of over 8 years back in San Fran. A doctor and a shared home in a very nice, hip, sunny district of San Fran.
I knew I was never going to be his "East Coast" or "NYC" lover.
Eventually after a few missteps (one involving him buying me a ticket to San Fran and I reneging on my promise to visit at the last minute), we became friends. In fact, I was able to make my first visit to San Fran because of my good relations with Mr South America and his lover.
As for the rugby, I had that happen with Olympic weightlifting. I stopped and decided to just lift and run for pleasure. Continue on with your rugby interest but you may need to back off for awhile or do something different (hey, hiking or with the cooler months ensuing some general weight training or bodybuilding --- the extra muscle mass will assist in making you a more formidable player.)
Posted by: chris at October 24, 2003 3:23 PM
the date formerly known as dreamy?
just so long as he doesn't become a nightmare i suppose.
Posted by: the mighty jimbo at October 24, 2003 7:28 PM
Nope, we're wise to that these days, and I've seen that sorta behavior before (The very male "Cake and eat it too" complex).
Posted by: jimbo at October 24, 2003 10:28 PM
Good for you man! Screw everyone else...do it your way or no way! Now, let me know when you post your definition and if it's something we should laminate. *wink*
Posted by: Adam at October 27, 2003 1:06 PM