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November 23, 2002
creepy accurate horoscope
Take the pressing matters to the hilt today, dear Capricorn, especially when it comes to romantic issues and emotional needs. You have all the data you need to make a valid point. You have a whole army of force to back you up today so fire at will. Your feelings are strong, intense, and they should not under any circumstances be ignored. Go with your gut instinct before you trust anything else.
I've learned to listen to my gut instincts since my last relationship. I give more credit to that little voice inside me that screams "NOOO!" when something's not right, especially with men.
I've had doubts about this guy for a while, but last night was the final nail in the coffin for us. I suppose I'm gonna kick myself in the head in a few months for walking away from it. Handsome, red-head, furry chest, in great shape, looks hot in Wranglers, successful, good heart, giving, honest and pleasant.
But...I felt that familiar molding going on for me to fit a certain image. Among other things, it was my beard that was the most significant offense to him. It turned him off so much that he wouldn't kiss me good-night. I like beards, they turn me on when they look right on a guy. I like my beard. I dislike shaving...it hurts and can become such a mundane task to perform. Sometimes I get tired of it and like being clean-shaven, and I like myself that way too. But when the mood hits me, I grow it out.
There are things about me I like that I won't change, and some things about me that I can't change that someone must accept with the whole package. The scars on my face, the funny spot on my neck that has no pigment, the way my tummy sticks out like a Care Bear, my geeky hobbies, and the need for Jimbo Time.
I suppose the beard might seem to be a petty thing to hold my ground with, but if I cave in to something so simple, something I like about myself, eventually I'll find myself caving in to other things. My sense of self is eroded away after a while. You date me, you get the whole me. Compromise is important, and it often leads to growth, but beard growth? Sorry, it shouldn't be an issue. I like my kisses good-night, and without them all bets are off.
Posted by jimbo at November 23, 2002 12:05 PM
Comments
Way to go! He doesn't sound good enough for you anyway.
Mark
Posted by: Mark at November 23, 2002 12:24 PM
Remember having a beard when I met my husband. I'm not sure why i grew it and was thinking about shaving it when we met. It itched like hell and only straight men and lesbians seemed to appreciate it. He hated it, so I knew I had to keep it at least a month longer just to establish that I wouldn't shave it just to make him happy. You gotta set your boundaries early in a relationship.
Posted by: ray at November 25, 2002 9:46 AM
girls have beards?
Posted by: Angel at October 7, 2003 2:38 PM