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October 24, 2002
hard vs soft plans
'whew' Although I thought I didn't feel affected by the sniper lurking around the District, I can feel a palpable release of tension now that it seems to be over. Execution would be to be too quick for the guys. I vote for life in prison, preferrably down in Lorton where some of the less savory on-the-down-low ("DL bruhs" for those of you on ICUII) cousins of the victims can have their fun with the two "Johns".
I had a nice phone chat with my ex last evening. No residual anger or rage from it either, which is nice to feel. Tonight the roomie treated me to a Reel Affirmations feature, a collection of gay short films. It was my first time in the historic Lincoln Theatre. Pretty nice interior.
I will be coming up to NYC for the Gotham/Renegades match November 15-17. Once I get a schedule of the whens and wheres, I will try to meet up (or be staying with) some of y'all. Before I leave, I'll pack all my black clothes and change my font to Verdana 10px.
There, was that so hard? Three weeks before the visit, I can state the start of a schedule, and make some vague promises. Once I know more details, say, a week before I go, I will begin to make more 'hard' plans.
When my hometown friends came to DC for some conferences this summer, they had a firm grip on their schedule, and called in advance a week before arriving in order to spend some quality time with me. Perhaps it's a Wisconsin thing, but their consideration and commitment was admirable and appreciated.
However, Kim and Tina were an exception rather than the rule. Lots of people come through DC for various reasons. Being a big conference town, I have had the pleasure of playing tour guide for scores of friends from across the nation who I haven't caught up with in ages. I love seeing my friends and spending time with folks from out of town.
What is frustrating is when you are given an amorphous period of time to keep open for their visits, with no indication of which day to be free. To hell with grocery shopping, plans with local friends, yardwork, webwork, work in general, working out, or the many other things one does during the week or on the weekend.
Even worse is the last-minute frenzied call for a twenty-minute window of time to meet up for a beer. I have an ex from Kazakstan, now living in the Ukraine, who is notorious for that. He has e-mail, but no warnings are given in advance, and suddenly he's in town, gives you a call and wants to meet up with you that night right after work. Hugh, I'd love to, but I had plans. I don't even indulge him any more other than a brief chat on the phone.
I make resolutions throughout the year, not just on Dec. 31. Be warned. My time is valuable and these days about all I have. I'm becoming set in my ways and expect better from everyone.
Posted by jimbo at October 24, 2002 7:41 PM
Comments
Jimbo,
Lorton is no more. We made DC get a new prison somewhere else.
Mark
Posted by: Mark at October 24, 2002 8:09 PM
We here in New York like the idea of an itinerary, in theory. You can tell us your plans in advance and we will usually smile and nod as though we are listening but then the following will happen...
1.) when you get here and call to say, "I'm here!" our response will be..."Oh, is that THIS weekend."
2.) Even if we remember you will be here, we will have not made our weekend plans yet, so be prepared to play it by ear.
P.S. Orange is the new pink...keep it in mind.
Posted by: Mike at October 28, 2002 3:07 PM