typical DC streetscape in winterIt happened like clockwork after the daylight savings time change earlier this month. My mood dropped, it was an effort to get motivated, and I noted an increasing reluctance to go out. The temperature changes didn’t help either, but I’m aware of these mood changes this time of year and work to recognize these mood changes. I do things to go against these urges like work out, ride my bike, and make sure I get out to socialize. These things help a lot.

This has always been a challenge for me in DC. I often explain to others that our winters are like the scenes from the Sleepy Hollow animated feature and movie. It’s worth noting I didn’t feel this way this time of year in Portland. I was warned that their winters were miserable in a different way. Granted, I wasn’t working and was able to go out in the day to get some amount of UV through the cloud cover. But Portland was somewhat warmer despite being drippier with all the rain. I think the tipping point for me is the colder temperatures in DC.

The other thing comparing winters between the two cities was that I noticed that not everyone in Portland did proactive things to combat the winter blahs. Not everyone in DC does either, but considering the reputation of the winters in the Pacific Northwest, you would think more people would do things to actively combat the blahs. Anyway my conclusion from all of this is that DC doesn’t have the reputation for having horrid winter blahs, but should. It is just as bad here as in the Pacific Northwest, but not as rainy. Just cold and dark.

looking?The other way DC is much like Sleepy Hollow is that we have a lot of headless torsos running around. I mean like people not showing their faces on mobile apps like Scruff. We have far more headless horsemen in DC than in Portland. I attribute this to some sort of cultural thing having to do with remnants of Puritanism or Southern propriety. And despite being recently hailed by the New York Times as one of the gayest places in America, there are still a lot of closet cases – or maybe people who think being seen on an app is indicative of their whorishness. This wasn’t the case in Portland, where people didn’t give a shit and showed their faces.

I think there were just as many open relationships in Portland as there are in DC. But again they were simply honest about their open status in Portland, which was very refreshing. In DC relationship statuses in online profiles are often left blank, where I simply assume they are in a relationship, open, and they think they are being sneaky about it. I much prefer to be fully disclosed on someone’s relationship status, then we can both go from there with all cards on the table. I don’t care if you’re an online whore or in an open relationship, I just want to be informed that you have a boyfriend. It helps interactions go much smoother. And believe me gurl, if you think I won’t find out you have a boyfriend at home, think again. My agents are everywhere.

Good news: while things are still rolling for a permanent job, I secured a short-term contracting gig that could possibly turn into a very lucrative long-term gig. It’s helping to write a proposal to assist as a contractor with the agency I formerly worked for. It’s the next best thing to actually getting right back with my former workplace. So right now it’s just helping to write a proposal as a “subject matter expert.” It’s nice to be recognized for my expertise after a year and a month of esteem-crushing joblessness. The irony is that they found me and actively recruited me without me having contacted them at all. This is after applying to 100+ jobs and networking my ass off for a year. I can’t complain, I guess this is how things work out. Now to turn on my UV lamp and get my happy self to work on Monday.


  1. brettcajun says:

    Aren’t you a little old to still be doing Scruff? Gurl, grow up! You can’t sniff glue your entire life. Complete finishing school. Be more proper and less sleazy. Even Madonna has grown up.

    When you are feeling down, walk on over to TJ and Rob’s where I’m sure you’ll be greeted with warm cocoa and soft little whisker smooches by Chuck the cat. That’s a wholesome bunch you should model your behavior behind.

    Act less like Miley and you’ll find the happiness you are yearning for. Unless you just like riding wrecking balls. SMH.

  2. Blobby says:

    Madonna has grown up? That sad sad sad “woman” has gotten a ‘grill’ – so if she’s grown-up, she is now a 22 yo black male. She’s the female equivalent of the sad 50 yo man with a ponytail and earring. Tragic.

  3. jimbo says:

    And here Brett offers a clear example of Southern propriety.

  4. brettcajun says:

    Jimbo, I need you to go outside pick out a switch that I’m gonna use on you. And it had better be more tree branch than little twig. It’s the only way… 😉

  5. Bitterbear says:

    Well that didn’t take long. Back to bitching about DC in a few weeks flat.

  6. TED says:

    Congratulations on the new gig. Maybe things are more torso-oriented in DC proper than out here in the burbs, but I just checked my Scruff, and of the forty guys who show up when I first opened it up, 33 had identifiable face pictures, and only a couple were bare torsos.

    Scruff is basically a hook-up site (all ridiculous protestations to the contrarary notwithstanding), so it’s possible that these guys are just doing their best to display their fitness for hooking up — given that Scruff won’t let them put pictures of their junk in their principal thumbnails.

  7. Steve in NH says:

    Hey Jim, Welcome back to the East Coast and congratulations on the job. I hear you about the sudden mood change when the clocks do. I go through it every year. I think it got even worse when they made the change later in the season. Just for SAD reasons alone I wish they would leave the clocks alone. Does light therapy help you? I really should give it a try. Take care, Steve.

  8. brettcajun says:

    LMAO. You are going to make Jimbo jizz all over himself Mark. 😉

  9. mark says:

    ….very, very quiet…you ok, jimbo?

  10. jimbo says:

    I’m here! Just haven’t had much to blog about lately.