Pardon the blogging absence – I’ll make it up by recycling something I wrote around Christmas but never posted, which you can read in the paragraphs following this one. I think I’m in a winter k-hole [again]. I realized my condition yesterday after I resolved to get outside for a jog, and I perked right up after the run. I need to keep that up – outdoor aerobic activity keeps me happy. For a while there I was worried because I didn’t even have an ounce of motivation to pick on my ex-husBear Brett (which takes no effort) but fortunately TJ was there to pick up the slack.
Over the Christmas break I officially retired my old North Face tadpole backpacking tent (shown at right at Red Creek in West Virginia). I believe I’ve had it since at least 1990. I purchased it one summer in Alaska along with my backpack which I will also soon retire. It ostensibly fit two people, but the occupants had to be very intimate as it was a tight fit for two. The waterproofing and rainfly were finally starting to degrade and I wanted a bigger tent anyway.
I offered the old tent to coworkers with kids who might want a backyard adventure tent but nobody took up the offer. I wondered if the Occupy DC people camped out in MacPherson Square might want a tent so I dropped it off there on Christmas day. They were very thankful and gracious about the donation. They told me the tent will house a single lady protester who was eager to move out of her communal tent for some privacy. I guess she wasn’t one of the Occupy DC tent city residents in a blossoming relationship.
Even though it went to a good cause I was a little sad breaking ways with my tent. I have camped in many sites over the past 20 years with that thing, including many Alaskan and West Virginia wilderness areas. ~sob!~
Aside from performing random acts of kindness for anarchists, over the Christmas holiday week I went to a lot of extremely gay Gay GAY holiday parties the week before Christmas, some of them actually recognizing the birth of Baby Jesus. Yes folks gays do have souls and some of us are even spiritual. You wouldn’t think that considering the rhetoric thrown at us on a regular basis but it’s true. When I ran support group meetings back in college I noticed the three main concerns for gay people coming into their own were the “Three Fs” – family, friends and faith. Basically gays coming out are concerned with losing one or all of the above 3 Fs.
And despite Andrew Sullivan’s continual assurance that we’re all so “post-gay” (written from the protective bubble of a gay theme park and fantasyland known as Provincetown) I keep hearing stories about holiday tales of woe and rejection from my people. Told in hushed tones in the kitchen or over by the bar, despite all our progess I still hear tales about how this couple couldn’t go visit one of their families because the parents don’t know he’s gay, and so on. My roomate’s 19 year-old son still won’t talk to him since he came out. Another friend still hasn’t met his live-in partner’s parents, I’m guessing because the partner is not yet out to them. We are most certainly not “post-gay” quite yet – all Andrew needs to do is to check things out in between coasts once in a while. I don’t know if it’s mostly because of anti-gay families or whether it’s the gays who are too fearful to come out (thus exacerbating the problem) but we are clearly not all out and/or accepted by our families quite yet.
Despite all the amazing progressive advances in laws and recognition across the country lately there is still a lot of work to be done. And I think a lot of this work has to do with our personal selves and in our relationships with our families.