feeling good
It's been so long since I've gotten any, I'm starting to perceive relatively smooth swimmers as "woofy."
But desperation is never pretty, so admitting this won't help my condition. Ooops, too late. That said I'll have to note Manhunt doesn't necessarily improve your chances of getting laid. I honestly believe some of those guys are actually being honest when they say they are "just looking" on their profile. In addition, there's simply a tragic, tragic majority in DC who are heavily shorn. DC is possibly the most clean-cut city in our nation, and thus is a purgatory of sorts for me. It's a hairless hell - a wasteland of depiliated flesh. It's really hard to find good fur in this town.
And during rugby season my standards for fitness in partners goes way up. Granted, most guys in DC are in pretty good shape, but once you start getting on in years up to my age, the percentage of fit guys aged 38 starts to go down. I'm not saying a guy needs to be a triathelete, but a some regular activity would do some people some good. I stuff my head up into the crotches of hot, sweaty, muscular rugby players at least three times a week, and it's hard to find anything comparable to that in a partner. Anyway, maybe I'll have to lower my standards and date Michael Phelps, even if he is kinda smooth.
Other than that I've been reviewing the book Feeling Good: the New Mood Therapy, by David D. Burns, M.D. lately in preparation for our gloomy winter that is already here. If any of you have gone to the doctor for depression or have been to the shrink for anger issues, you've probably been prescribed this book. It is frequently offered in lieu of depression medications. Having tried said pharmaceuticals, I recommend you try the non-pharma options first. I'm also trying TJ's suggestion of vitamin D in addition to trying to get outside during lunch hour for some natural light at least once a day.
Basically the book teaches you how to counter patterns of negative thought with rational rebuttals. We all have a voice in our head that tells us things, but sometimes this voice is wrong, particularly with anger, self-doubt and depression. I think the technique works and it's helped to review some of the chapters, particularly related to anger management and loneliness.
But a date with Michael Phelps sure would help a lot too. He's sooo dreamy...
You are WAY too stingy Jimbo. You need to let Charlene take over and be the super slut you were always meant to be!
Ashtanga yoga ... combat your depression, stay in shape, and see who looks woofy in sweat soaked spandex.
You are 38? My God you are old! Hee hee. (I turn 38 next year)
Who's Charlene?
I'm a combination guy: I've done the pharm many times and I go to a psychiatrist. I have gone on and off SSRIs but the monthly hour with my shrink has been what's kept me going. It's comforting to know he's there, no more than 3 1/2 weeks away, and that he's not just a friend vested in comforting me. In the past I got to feeling weak that I had to take medicine but I've shed that shame. Life is just easier with the Lex, particularly in the fall, so I take it and stop fighting with my shit (my favorite pasttime). I'm a better person when I take it as well as being happier.
Never heard of that book--sounds like something I could definitely use.
THIS. IS. CHARLENE:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/jimbo3dc/291686574/
Know her.
Charlene looks great!!!!
Sex is another way to combat depression. Got alot of furry guys in Chicago, you should come for a visit and take a few home with you.
Do you ever worry that your employer or future employer will see posts like this? I'm asking because I do, which causes more self-censorship than I care to admit on my own blog.
Charlene is beautiful. She arouses my latent heterosexuality.
Scott raises a great question for all of us who are trying to make a living in an often-unkind world.
Perhaps our employers are different, and it depends on the workplace environment. Or our assumptions. I know perhaps a few of them might check in here or there, or perhaps they don't care. Granted, a blogger should ALWAYS assume a coworker, friend or family member will see it. I guess it just depends on how you think they will take it. It's always a gamble I guess.
This person on FlickR has a bigger Woofy fetish than you:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/40782854@N05/with/4059458789/
My favorite thing about Manhunt is how you can now list the actual dimensions of your penis. And every guy is like 8x6. But the funny part is that they also have their dick pic showing... and it ain't no 8 inches!
Do they think I've bumped my head and forgotten what a tape measure looks like??
I'll probably check out that book too. I've been treating my anxiety/depression for years with Effexor, biofeedback, and hypnotherapy. Gym workouts and yoga also help. And I recommend reading and re-reading Stephen Mitchell's poetic translation of "Tao te Ching."